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Gratitude

"Always be thankful

"Compared to the world around us, we have so many blessings. I often say, “first world problem” when responding to someone who is complaining about their “struggles.” Do not get me wrong, I understand difficulties, trials, etc., but in the context of having a home and food and other necessities, our trials often pale in comparison to others’ struggles for basic human needs.

Be thankful." - Specialisms

It's easy to get caught up in our day-to-day problems and forget to see the bigger picture. But, and I refer to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, for many of us our issues aren't truly physiological or even safety needs, and if they truly are, they are likely rooted in psychological issues. That doesn't mean they aren't serious issues, it just means we have at least two categories of things for which to be thankful - the basic necessities of life, and safety / security (and by this I mean order, predictability, and control.


Today, most NT people would even be able to go as far as saying they have a handle on their own personal sense of love and belonging as well as their own self-esteem (again, these two have strong psychological aspects to consider). But this is where we diverge a bit with the NDs. Whatever you believe is the source of their autism or special need(s), much of this translates to psychological issues landing in the security / love / esteem levels - and that's where therapy must work, in that order, to address issues.


With that said, there is an incredible therapy in gratitude - and it starts with thankfulness to our Creator:


"God is sovereign and above ALL men.

"Trust in Him. Trust in His sovereignty. Know that He is in control no matter what you say or do. Lean into Him. There is amazing freedom in accepting that someone else is in control of your life and He has greater authority in this world than you ever will. It alleviates anxiety and gives you a peace in every situation that is simply beyond explanation and understanding." - Specialisms


I always encourage parents to not underestimate the intelligence of their child - the issue is not intelligence, the issue is in dealing with all the sensory inputs and figuring a way to function and communicate in our world / culture. So teach your children to be grateful. Your example is brutaly important - so speak it often. And then, if they can, have them acknowledge and speak of their thankfulness as well - daily. And if they are non-verbal, teach them to sign and make "thank you" an important part of their repertoire.


"Gratefulness is an excellent character trait. It crafts contentment; it encourages humility, and even fosters kindness and charity.

"You are blessed." - Specialisms